Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of joy you must
have somebody to divide it with. Mark Twain
I stole this from an email RAD just sent to widow group. Trying to figure out what I think about it. But now that it's posted, I realize I'm too tired to figure out what I think about it. So bed it is.
But just have to add that I have (had?) this terrible, irrational fear of rain. But it's pouring right now, and my initial reaction was that of excitement instead of fear. I can't wait to get into my cozy bed with the rain beating against my window. Mmmm.
Night.
-B
7 comments:
I like that quote. :-)
Sweet dreams!
If I had heard the quote right after DH (dear husband) died I don't think I could have handled.
I mean it's great that grief takes care of itself but if you can't get full joy unless you share it does that mean I am potentially doomed to a life of no joy? Or just that you have to find other people to share it with.
And is he saying you don't have to share grief to get through it? And if so, that has not been my experience.
Maybe it is just a guy thing. (guys, don't shoot me)
Hmm,
Roz
Oh forgot to say, I'm proud that you got through and liked the rain. It was a cool rain.
Got to snuggle with my pal through the loudest of it.
Lovely,
RAD
ps doyou still say the Sh'ma?
Ok... just for the record, there was a lot of peer pressure involved in me leaving this comment.
In the quote I think he was saying that grief is something you do alone, and joy is something you experience with another person. But, I'm not sure I agree with it.
I think it's important to also be able to grieve with others, and have fun by yourself.
I feel that I am not fully liscensed to comment on grief, although I have had my losses, none has hit at close to home as yours and your friends from widow group.
So, my 2 cents? I think all burdens shared are lighter, and all joys shared are greater.
Slacker mom,
I have to agree with you. I cannot imagine grieving alone (although there are times when I feel the need to be alone to do some grieving). And most of my moments of pure happiness are with others. But that other person(s) doesn't have to be a boyfriend/husband.
Roz,
Thanks for sharing the quote. And the rain was strangely comforting last night. I slept really well. And no sh'ma!
I have to say... I'm amazed that you were excited about the rain! I think that is real progress, not sure how, but I know it is.That must have felt really good- J
Not sure about grief taking care of itself? I do however see how sharing joy can enhance the feeling.
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