Monday, February 19, 2007

Forgiveness

How do you
forgive
someone
after they
die

for lies that
they told you
when they were alive?

Especially
when you keep
dreaming
of the
lies

night
after
night

I want to
forgive
I really
do

I just
don't
know
how

-b

7 comments:

J.Rowe said...

I think you just need to say it aloud and move forward. Let yourself forgive and let it be. I've been watching Oprah and the "Secrete". It's about the energy you put out there and more. ( It think the philosophy has some holes in it, but there are some good points)

You have your energy going in so many positive ways, just try your best to move forward. Everything you have going on says you've already started to forgive.

The past is the past and there's nothing you can do to change what has happened. Try to make peace. I should take my own advice: )

M said...

Wow. Don't come close to knowing the answer to this one. I certainly hope the dreams go away.

The only thing I can think to say is focus on the positive memories. I know you have lots of those. Maybe focusing your energy in that direction will push your dreams in that direction too.

kyle said...

B-
I think that sometimes dreams are the most powerful way of confronting something. They allow us the chance to broach something without having to devote all of our energy to it. I think that probably in time your forgiveness will also come through in a dream. Maybe that's too optimistic of me but I think that it could be true. Sometimes we have to deal with everything from our past lives in order to move forward and sometimes our inner consciousness is only trying to protect us from more hurt because if we faced it with our full consciousness it might send us even more backwards. Hoping for better nights ahead for you and peace as well
hugs

Alicia said...

b - Unfortunately, I have a lot of practice at this. My father was ... to put it mildly ... a royal bastard.

I think that in some ways, forgiveness is a lot like widowhood: If you have been deeply wounded, you have to keep revisiting the pain and moving through it. And every time you do that with honesty and love, you come through a little stronger, a little more whole.

In my case, I had to realize that my father loved me as best he could ... it just wasn't very well. He was too twisted inside to really love anyone, including himself. I had to forgive HIM -- I couldn't forgive the unforgivable things he did -- but I could forgive him for being a broken man instead of the Perfect Daddy that every little girl wants.

Forgiveness can be hard work, and it can be the work of a lifetime, but I think in the end it is one of most important pieces of being human. Forgiveness allows us to enter into the divine mystery of love ... loving someone in spite of what he has done, rather than because of what he has done.

Thank you for posting this and giving me the opportunity to think about forgiveness, something I've been needing in my own life lately.

-- Pentha, with love

Maisy said...

What Pentha said.

I wanna be just like her when I grow up!

Ali

b said...

Thanks all. Just had a good therapy session about it. Between my father in law dying, and getting all the medical files, things have been brought back up to the surface. I need to process it allk a bit more, and then I think I'll be able to move on.

Anonymous said...

I agree with Jenn. I have found some inspiration from learning about The Secret. One is, "energy flows were attention goes." That is really helping me in my life, I don't know if it applies here, but I thought I would share.