Thursday, April 03, 2008

Pregnant Man?

Can we please discuss the pregnant man????
I am watching Oprah
and just can't get over it
They seem like nice people
but, but, but
something just seems not right about this
Am I being too closed minded?
Please discuss

-b

16 comments:

E9 said...

No and No to your two questions. I used to think Oprah was above this sort of topic on her show.

Anonymous said...

Thing is he is not really a man. Genetically he is a woman who kept the female reproductive organs when she went through reassignment to a he. It's hardly an unusual thing for a woman to get pregnant and regardless of his emotionally and intellectual orientation, you can't change yourself at the cellular level.

It's not wrong what he did. Weird perhaps but certainly not something that should garner any kind of media reaction.

And I agree with bca. I thought Oprah was years beyond this sort of Jerry Springer stunt.

b said...

Thanks Annie. Seriously, no one will discuss this with me. I even tried bringing it up at lunch today. Didn't go over too well....

Alicia said...

Oh.
My.
God.

It's bizarre, and something feels inherently wrong. If "he" knew he wanted to keep the option of childbirth open, then he should have stayed a "she." I can't fathom a surgeon doing the necessary procedures without a total psych exam and having the possible desire for children come up as a huge red flag. At the very least, it seems like huge emotional instability that would not necessarily lead to the best parenting of a child.

uhhh... seems like there's more to say, but WOW.

Anonymous said...

i spent the entire time watching with eyebrows furrowed. it seemed so wrong - not wrong like right vs. wrong - but wrong like so, so not natural wrong. i know he is actually a she, but it was simply too odd for my head to wrap around it.

Maisy said...

I thought he seemed a likeable person too, and his step-daughters seemed rational adults who were quite ok with this too.

But he really is a she. I agree with the others, if he really wanted to be a he, he wouldn't have kept his she bits.

I'd like to see the child in 20 or 30 years time to see how they felt about it, find out if they were happy with the gender they were born.

Nobody at my work discusses stuff like this either, it's almost as though everyone's so busy being politically correct they are afraid to offend others who may think differently.

Ali

Anonymous said...

Holy crap.
Holy crap.
Holy crap.

I don't even know what to say. That's just bizarre.

Alicia said...

Holy crap.
Holy crap.
Holy crap.

I don't even know what to say.


Actually, I think you were quite articulate!

Anonymous said...

I'm with Alicia. I consider myself very open-minded & liberal, but this just doesn't seem good on several levels. I think either the wife should've had the child, or they should've adopted. If he thinks of himself as a man, IS a man, then no babies from his womb. This shows to me some lack of wanting to truly live as a man (enter: psych eval). Then, I just think growing up is hard enough as it is, but add this in to the mix and it would likely be tough on a kid. However, the child appears to have loving parents, and that's more than a lot of kids can say today (as a former family law & juvenile law attorney I know...), so who knows...ugh. I don't know.
Lurker Cathy

Anonymous said...

I think this person is a nut. It is really a female, so all this bullshit about a man being pregnant is crap. It shows how low our society has become. We dont even know a man from a woman.

JAV said...

As someone who will be giving birth one week from Monday, I watched in utter disbelief that I was having a common experience with this man. It also made we wish my husband had carried this thing. Anyway, it was bizarre. I thought the best comment was from the neighbor who said, "It takes some sexual dyslexia to put this all together."

Trish said...

As others have said, HE is still a WOMAN. Just a really manly woman. There is nothing miraculous about a woman being pregnant.

My personal opinions on this would probably be considered very closed minded, so I should most likely keep them to myself. But I do think Oprah has her own agenda, and she is trying to push it on all of her millions of viewers.

I too wonder how strange and confusing this will be to the child. Can we talk about WHY they are doing this? Perhaps we are trying to push his BOOK?

Perhaps we should respect the way God designed life to work. But that is just my "Closed-minded" opinion. :-D

Trish said...

Oops, guess I posted my opinion after all. :-P

Unknown said...

For someone to change into a man or try hard to be one (or maybe she didn't... by hard I meant surgical procedures) why in the hell would she/he want to do a female thing? I guess from my understanding his wife couldn't carry the child???

Still it's wrong I really didn't think I could ever see a non-cute pregnant chick... I was wrong. I wonder if his milk will come in ?

Anonymous said...

Delurking to say - the wife couldn't carry the child because she had endometriosis and had to have a hysterectomy.
I guess I'm the only one who's inital reaction was "wow, he's really lucky he decided to keep his uterus!" While he didn't specify, I interpreted his rational of keeping his reproductive organs as wanting to somehow be involved in the child creating process which, unless he was magically able to produce sperm, he wouldn't been able to do unless he provided the egg. Afterall, procreation is a human drive. I guess what I don't understand is why people believe he should have stayed a woman just one aspect of being a woman (being able to reproduce) appealed to him. I just think there are more differences between men and women then just being able to bear children.

b said...

Dear Delurker,

Thank you for sharing your perspective. I like your way of thinking.

-b